Do you ever find that you’re comparing yourself to other people? Do you see how well they are doing and you start to question your own success?
Comparisons are always unfair and we have nothing to gain from them. They are so detrimental to our health, wellbeing, happiness and confidence. When we compare other people’s highlights with our very worst moments, there will only be negative consequences.
I believe we were all put on this earth for our own specific reason to make an impact only you can make. We are all a unique blend of hopes, dreams, abilities, skills, which is different to every other person’s unique blend of hopes, dreams, abilities and skills. Just like our fingerprints, we are different to the 7 billion other people on this planet, and those fingerprints literally make a difference that only you can. So comparisons are pointless and unfair when we all have our own special gifts to give.
I too find it so easy to to allow those automatic thoughts to creep in, so there are a few things that I do when I start to compare myself with others. The first is to be aware of the things which trigger me to start to compare, whether it be social media or watching the other parents at soccer. Once you know what your triggers are you are better able to prepare yourself, knowing that you may feel the urge to make comparisons. To prepare myself I spend time in gratitude, use mindfulness, do exercise and power posing, to make sure I’m in a positive mindset.
It’s important to remember that even when people may look like they have it all together they too may have moments of self doubt, worry and anxiety. Every person is on their own journey and to compare yours to others is pointless and unhelpful. Remember, comparisons are simply thoughts, not facts.
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