Lately, I’ve been thinking a lot about the idea of ‘creating a good day’. It’s easy to achieve when everything is going well, but what about when you are in a moment of struggle? What you do in these difficult moments can change everything.
In fact, the counterintuitive idea of allowing yourself to be vulnerable with your own emotions and with those around you may just be the answer. For too long, being vulnerable has been labelled as a sign of weakness, when in reality it leads to incredible strength and power.
This week’s guest knows a lot about what it takes to be truly vulnerable and what can happen when you’re not. Only a few years ago Ryan Hassan had the “perfect” life, then his life was flipped upside down. He became addicted to drugs and found himself in trouble with the police. With the help of a friend he was able to turn his life around. Ryan is now the co founder of the Melbourne Centre of Healing and hosts his own podcast called “Shift Happens”.
Ryan and I talk about how you can truly create a great day for yourself. We can't always avoid bad moments and we can't pretend that everything is okay when it is not. It’s all about embracing and owning those negative moments. It’s about allowing yourself to find and experience great power in your own vulnerability.
Ryan grew up in Melbourne a part of a middle class family, where he looked up to his older brother as a hero figure. Growing up Ryan struggled with high anxiety during school. He thought that it was just something everyone experienced, not realising until years later that not only did he have high anxiety but he also suppressed his emotions and chose to distract himself with dangerous addictions.
We talk about how Ryan came to terms with his emotions and how becoming more vulnerable helped him.
Some topics Ryan and I talk about are:
(4:00) “The Melbourne Centre of Healing”
(7:30) Ryan’s downward spiral and the years leading into the drug addiction.
(10:20) The meeting of Melissa the co founder of The Melbourne centre of healing and starting the walk to healing.
(19:10) The strength in being vulnerable.
(21:35) How to become more vulnerable in front of other people.
(27:05) The “Rain” formula. (R- Recognise A- Allow I- investigate N- Nurture)
Ryan’s explanation for the Rain Formula:
Recognise - Recognise what the emotion is. Example “I am feeling anger"
Allow - Allow the emotion to flow through you.
Investigate - Investigate what is really happening behind the emotion.
Nurture - Nurture the emotional energy in your body so we can properly process it.
(36:30) What the idea of “Do Life Better” means to Ryan.
(37:15) Ryan talks about his challenge for the week: Everyone you come into contact with, just simply connect with them for a moment, just make eye contact, and say to yourself this simple sentence - “That is simply me, living a different life”
You can get into contact with Ryan at these websites below.
You can find Ryan’s podcast “Shift Happens” at-
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Now, go out and create a great day.